”Toothless, dead crack whore – dead at age 19? Is that the destiny you’re looking for?”

1 03 2009

Via the Miami Herald, Miami-Dade Circuit Judge Spencer Eig, a child-welfare judge, is being reprimanded for vicious and obnoxious comments that he made to a fifteen-year old teen who was running away from a foster home where she was cursed at and beat. At a routine hearing last Tuesday, February 24th, Eig scolded the teen, who was sobbing throughout, about how she was making a poor choice by refusing to return back to the home where she was abused.

Eig said to her, “‘You’re throwing your life away. You could end up on the street toothless. You’ve seen these toothless hags on the street? You know how they get there? They blow their opportunities in life when they’re 15. They run away, they end up — people turn them into whores. Toothless, dead crack whore — dead at age 19? Is that the destiny you’re looking for?” (Bold emphasis mine)

He also told her, “It’s time for you to get over whatever bad experiences you had. You’re going to keep your stuff in a box and every few months someone’s going to be mean to you, then you’re going to get upset about it and you’re going to yell and scream and then, unlike regular children, which they wait for to calm down, they’re going to call the police and going to come and [involuntarily commit] you. Then they’re going to hold you in a psychiatric ward and pump drugs into you. That’s the future you’re buying for yourself . . . No one’s going to love you.” (Bold emphasis, again mine)

This is seriously messed up. The teen has been abused at her foster home and is not only being ignored and not taken seriously, but also being dehumanized. It is disgusting that instead of listening to her and trying to help her, like he should’ve done, Eig told her that if she ran away that she’d become a “toothless, dead crack whore” and that no one was going to love her.

Child abuse is not something to just “get over”. It needs to be addressed seriously and we clearly need a better system where abused foster children aren’t told that there is no hope for them and they might as well just suck it up because they’ll be abused wherever they go.

Eig is being reprimanded for issuing such harsh statements, but he hasn’t apologized to the teen. Instead, Miami-Dade’s chief juvenile court judge, Circuit Judge Cindy Lederman apologized to her. Lederman is going to discuss Eig’s innappropriate behavior with him, but all of that is under wraps.

What also perturbs me are some of the comments readers of the article left:

– It’s unreal that this is what we’ve come to. I’m blown away that he was made to APOLOGIZE for trying to help straighten a young lady out before it’s too late for her. Thanks, liberals, for this new way of life. It sucks.

– the key word here is toothless “DEAD” crack ho, at least being dead will no longer make her a lifelong tax burden. justice finally served….

– Good for the judge – God knows what he saw in that girl’s file which you and I haven’t seen. For all we know he might have saved her life. It’s about time people start talking to these kids in plain English where the consequences of their actions might take them. JUDGE EIG FOR SUPREME COURT JUDGE!!!!!

I’m sorry but in what way was Eig helping the teen? Saying that he tried to “help straighten her out” suggests that the problem lies more with her running away / wanting to run away versus her being abused in her foster home. The child-welfare system needs to be more responsive to and supportive of children or teenagers who report abuse instead of ignoring them and forcing them to remain in abusive circumstances.

Child abuse can’t just be sidelined as a “private” issue for the family to deal with. It needs to be more of a public issue and the state needs to have better support services in place that can effectively intervene. It saddens me that so many of the commenters rallied to Eig’s side instead of considering the severity and unfortunate reality of child abuse.


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