In Logan Crane’s column in the Daily today, “The art of O”, she writes about how few women achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse and then proceeds to give advice on how women can achieve orgasm when having sex with men. Like many of her other articles, this one is also very heteronormative.
Women know all too well that we can easily lose motivation to have sex. One thing comes up, and we are suddenly fixated on the issue at hand. A woman will never be able to come if she isn’t in the mood.
It is unfair to generalize that women easily lose motivation to have sex. This rests on the assumption that women are not very sexual beings and do not feel sexual desire as much as men do. Moreover, “one thing comes up, and we are suddenly fixated on the issue at hand”? Is this to suggest that women (and women only?) have such short attention spans and can’t fully concentrate on anything? It is difficult for both women and men to come if they aren’t in the mood.
And one oversight in her list of ways for women to orgasm during sex: what about masturbation?! Women can achieve orgasm while they are masturbating more easily than when they have intercourse. Furthermore, masturbation is something every woman can do, not just heterosexual women who are sexually active. Orgasm through masturbation is something we can all do ourselves so we don’t have to rely on a partner to get it right for us.